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Even Hate Crimes Against Us Are Punchlines. What Do Straight People Expect?

Reblogged from a person whom I am happy to follow…

 

Please read and then take a moment to really see, to truly hear, the reality all around us.   Even Hate Crimes Against Us Are Punchlines. What Do Straight People Expect?:  (Via. Huffington Post)

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framing our own narrative

i’m gonna rant…it’s been coming for awhile now.  it’s about all this business about where one is allowed to pee.

disclaimer: i am a cis woman and so privileged. i no longer wear my head shaved, so face no challenge as to using the appropriate restroom.  but my daughter is transgender, a beautiful 13 year-old transgender girl. so it’s not as tho i don’t ‘get’ why the issue is important.

here’s where i have a problem with this. since all the hoopla about bathroom rights has been going on, other major issues with regard to trans-persons have fallen off the radar in a big way.

no more worries, it seems, about the much higher incidence of homelessness among trans-folk, or the much higher suicide rate, or the fact that many in the medical profession and insurance agencies routinely deny the treatments and medications necessary to transgender people, this despite obama’s ACA having passed.

no more about how many transgender people are being killed, for nothing more than the hatred and bigotry rampant in society towards them.  just to ‘be’ seems a thing not allowed to some, never mind ‘to pee’!

now, i get that it IS a big deal that unenlightened sheeple fearmonger their way into seeming justified in denying something as basic as a bathroom break, but it seems to me that the narrative has been altered.  altered in such a way that the worst elements of life while trans have fallen to the wayside.  and instead of coming from a place of power, the right to self-definition, self-detemination and even self-defense, now transgender folk are put upon to defend against the notion that they are perverts.

this is a drastic departure from the narrative that is true, which is that transgender folk are normal human beings who have certain inalienable rights, just like the rest of us.

so in my mind, it’s time to piss and get off the pot.  don’t throw away all the progress toward an empowered future.  reclaim and reframe the narrative.

after all, there are way more congressmen, senators, and preachers, who are fond of using public restrooms for prowling. and there are countless sundry other perverts who really are dangerous to our children.. in the bathrooms and elsewhere.

so can we talk? about unemployment, healthcare, suicide, hate crimes, murders and such as transgender people fall victim to…instead of pretending that their trans-ness makes them predators?


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please read these powerful words…and be moved

scrolling through my facebook timeline, i came across this article; appropriately titled: “someone tell me that i’ll live”

a beautiful bit of starkly honest writing that sent shivers down my spine, gave me goosebumps and brought me to the brink of tears.

we who are raising our transgender children have a host of ‘right now’ issues with which we must contend.  getting blood labs to ensure that we get the puberty blockers on time, before the hormones which would further betray our child take hold in their bodies….starting the cross hormones at the perfect time so that they can experience puberty as the person they truly are….advocating for them with schools and at other social gatherings…educating where we can so that others will begin to experience the requisite compassion.

but none of this ensures their safety.  when our children become young adults and venture out into the great, big scary world, it is out of our hands.

certainly, at some point before she is older, i will have to help my daughter to understand the dangers.  perhaps get her some judo classes…as she is autistic, she often misses nuances in behaviours of others that might warn her ahead of time when someone isn’t receiving her well.

this article was amazing in its ability to bring to mind the realities of our far less than perfect society, and the consequences to our transgender daughters, mothers, sisters and friends.


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so, this happened…again

it is horrible when someone is murdered.  death comes to us all, of course, but to have one’s last moments of life be an act of violence so cruel … words escape me!  what could be worse? right?

well, the horror being murdered sometimes is not the final insult.

another transgender woman was murdered,  her breath, her future, taken from her.  but as if that inhumane blow that ended her life weren’t enough, the media that reported her death robbed her even further, by declaring her “a man dressed in woman’s clothing”

this travesty, this ignominy of having added to the violence done to India Clarke, strains the limits of belief. in a day and age when so many high profile persons, celebrities and other heroic individuals, have led the way in helping to open the eyes and minds of our society; in a day and age of marriage equality and breaking away from stigmatising those who differ from previously accepted norms, such a hideous betrayal of common decency cannot be blamed on ignorance.

i am raising a beautiful transgender girl who has just turned 12 years old.  she has lived as a girl since she turned five, when i finally understood how i could support her, how to help her be who she truly is.  she still struggles with the fact that her body is wrong for her…she worries that she will die before she is “all girl”.  i can only imagine the horrendous reaction she would feel from beyond the grave if her death, (not even by murder) were reported as the death of a ‘boy dressed as a girl’.

life is hard already hard for a transgender person in these times of change,  when people still feel free to make jokes of transgender people, call them names. in many states, assault and even murder can be considered justified if the person who is attacked is transgender and the assailant felt “tricked” or “deceived” by the clever ruse and thus couldn’t control their response! (it’s called “gay or trans panic” defense and has been overruled in some states, but in many more is still an accepted defense

it’s bad enough that such  blatant disregard for another human life  exists in this the 21st century and  to consider murder and/or assault defensible is truly unconscionable. but for the media to report this vicious deed while at the same time demeaning and robbing the victim of dignity seems beyond a failure.  it is a further crime!

i can only hope for my daughter’s sake that society at large and the media in particular will grow the fuck up!  maybe evolve some compassion…so that if not in life, at least in death our loved ones who happen to be transgender will not have to suffer the behaviour of fools.

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