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please read these powerful words…and be moved

scrolling through my facebook timeline, i came across this article; appropriately titled: “someone tell me that i’ll live”

a beautiful bit of starkly honest writing that sent shivers down my spine, gave me goosebumps and brought me to the brink of tears.

we who are raising our transgender children have a host of ‘right now’ issues with which we must contend.  getting blood labs to ensure that we get the puberty blockers on time, before the hormones which would further betray our child take hold in their bodies….starting the cross hormones at the perfect time so that they can experience puberty as the person they truly are….advocating for them with schools and at other social gatherings…educating where we can so that others will begin to experience the requisite compassion.

but none of this ensures their safety.  when our children become young adults and venture out into the great, big scary world, it is out of our hands.

certainly, at some point before she is older, i will have to help my daughter to understand the dangers.  perhaps get her some judo classes…as she is autistic, she often misses nuances in behaviours of others that might warn her ahead of time when someone isn’t receiving her well.

this article was amazing in its ability to bring to mind the realities of our far less than perfect society, and the consequences to our transgender daughters, mothers, sisters and friends.


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so, this happened…again

it is horrible when someone is murdered.  death comes to us all, of course, but to have one’s last moments of life be an act of violence so cruel … words escape me!  what could be worse? right?

well, the horror being murdered sometimes is not the final insult.

another transgender woman was murdered,  her breath, her future, taken from her.  but as if that inhumane blow that ended her life weren’t enough, the media that reported her death robbed her even further, by declaring her “a man dressed in woman’s clothing”

this travesty, this ignominy of having added to the violence done to India Clarke, strains the limits of belief. in a day and age when so many high profile persons, celebrities and other heroic individuals, have led the way in helping to open the eyes and minds of our society; in a day and age of marriage equality and breaking away from stigmatising those who differ from previously accepted norms, such a hideous betrayal of common decency cannot be blamed on ignorance.

i am raising a beautiful transgender girl who has just turned 12 years old.  she has lived as a girl since she turned five, when i finally understood how i could support her, how to help her be who she truly is.  she still struggles with the fact that her body is wrong for her…she worries that she will die before she is “all girl”.  i can only imagine the horrendous reaction she would feel from beyond the grave if her death, (not even by murder) were reported as the death of a ‘boy dressed as a girl’.

life is hard already hard for a transgender person in these times of change,  when people still feel free to make jokes of transgender people, call them names. in many states, assault and even murder can be considered justified if the person who is attacked is transgender and the assailant felt “tricked” or “deceived” by the clever ruse and thus couldn’t control their response! (it’s called “gay or trans panic” defense and has been overruled in some states, but in many more is still an accepted defense

it’s bad enough that such  blatant disregard for another human life  exists in this the 21st century and  to consider murder and/or assault defensible is truly unconscionable. but for the media to report this vicious deed while at the same time demeaning and robbing the victim of dignity seems beyond a failure.  it is a further crime!

i can only hope for my daughter’s sake that society at large and the media in particular will grow the fuck up!  maybe evolve some compassion…so that if not in life, at least in death our loved ones who happen to be transgender will not have to suffer the behaviour of fools.


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Transphobic donor of $100,000 finds out money can’t buy bigotry

this article! Transphobic donor of $100,000 finds out money can’t buy bigotry.

things like this give parents of transgender girls a  ray of hope in a world that can be so unkind!

to all the folk who donated their dollars to make up for that bigot’s actions; thank you, for saying a great big “NO” to hate!


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a familiar story

as any readers of my blog know, the process of zion becoming ziona was very similar…without the public school experiences… please enjoy reading this family’s story…

and don’t forget to watch on june 30th!

the more that people understand our transgender kids, the easier their childhoods and journey to adulthood will be…and kids that aren’t traumatised make for healthier grown-ups!


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into the deep end

it’s been a while since i’ve written in my blog…mostly because everything is going relatively smoothly in our lives..ziona and i have been doing our homeschool lessons and other things we like to do. we added japanese to our curriculum this year and more drawing, per her request.  she has tested out of 6th grade and we are all ready for the upcoming 7th grade lesson plan, having bought the necessary materials and researched what sorts of extra-curricular options we’ll consider.

we haven’t yet taken our trip out to california for her appointment at the child and adolescent gender clinic at ucsf with her ‘transition team’.  the vantas puberty blocker that she had implanted into her arm last year is still suppressing male puberty, but it is going to have to be replaced, probably later in the year.  but it may not be quite time to have it replaced by september when our next scheduled visit with her team is supposed to take place.

so i have gone online, to every resource of which i have knowledge to try to find a closer option for a pediatric endocrinologist that will consider being a more local part of ‘the team’.  already ziona’s primary care provider is part of the away team…ordering the tests that the ucsf pediatric endocrinologist orders.  but because of  it being a specialised branch of medicine, the pediatrician doesn’t feel comfortable with seeing to certain aspects of ziona’s needs.  including prescribing hormones or implanting the puberty blocker.

if i can find a local pediatric endocrinologist i can wrangle ziona’s medicaid into helping to pay for this as well…which would be a big help, as i am on a very fixed, very low income.  i haven’t found an endocrinology practice that mentions being okay with transgender treatments for minors anywhere in the whole state of florida! none!

so this is me, getting ready to dive into the deep end of the pool.  i am going to try to convince a local pediatric endocrinologist to become a part of the san francisco team…long distance…in the same way that the primary care physician does.  by being in touch with the very highly esteemed ucsf program to provide the hormones and/or puberty blockers that are necessary to my daughter’s well-being.

so wish me luck, readers! and if by chance anyone out there knows of a doctor in florida that already provides such a thing as pediatric endocrinology for transgender minors.  please comment below!


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Anonymous forum poster delivers Knock Out Punch to Christian extremists knocking Caitlyn Jenner

pasupatidasi:

great anonymous reply to a hater regarding the recent revelation of Caitlyn Jenner…

this response is spot on! more of this, please!

Originally posted on LEXIE CANNES STATE OF TRANS:

christians huckabee jennerLEXIE CANNES STATE OF TRANS — To no one’s surprise, Christian extremists took to the airwaves and internet with the usual vile and hatred following Caitlyn Jenner’s coming out.

By happenstance, forwarded to me today was a response from an anonymous forum member in reply to a vile statement about Caitlyn posted earlier in the day by another member. In my opinion, this person’s reply is likely among the all-time great rebuttals to those who hate in the name of Christ. Amazingly spot-on with writing skills most writers dream of having, I was both impressed and entertained!

I’m reproducing the conversation here. I’ve changed usernames and made a few edits. The forum is neither religious or LGBT orientated, nor is it a news site’s “comments section.” Just ordinary people discussing matters of varying topics.

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Christian Bob:

“If you don’t consider what Bruce Jenner is doing to his life as…

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