it is horrible when someone is murdered. death comes to us all, of course, but to have one’s last moments of life be an act of violence so cruel … words escape me! what could be worse? right?
well, the horror being murdered sometimes is not the final insult.
another transgender woman was murdered, her breath, her future, taken from her. but as if that inhumane blow that ended her life weren’t enough, the media that reported her death robbed her even further, by declaring her “a man dressed in woman’s clothing”
this travesty, this ignominy of having added to the violence done to India Clarke, strains the limits of belief. in a day and age when so many high profile persons, celebrities and other heroic individuals, have led the way in helping to open the eyes and minds of our society; in a day and age of marriage equality and breaking away from stigmatising those who differ from previously accepted norms, such a hideous betrayal of common decency cannot be blamed on ignorance.
i am raising a beautiful transgender girl who has just turned 12 years old. she has lived as a girl since she turned five, when i finally understood how i could support her, how to help her be who she truly is. she still struggles with the fact that her body is wrong for her…she worries that she will die before she is “all girl”. i can only imagine the horrendous reaction she would feel from beyond the grave if her death, (not even by murder) were reported as the death of a ‘boy dressed as a girl’.
life is hard already hard for a transgender person in these times of change, when people still feel free to make jokes of transgender people, call them names. in many states, assault and even murder can be considered justified if the person who is attacked is transgender and the assailant felt “tricked” or “deceived” by the clever ruse and thus couldn’t control their response! (it’s called “gay or trans panic” defense and has been overruled in some states, but in many more is still an accepted defense
it’s bad enough that such blatant disregard for another human life exists in this the 21st century and to consider murder and/or assault defensible is truly unconscionable. but for the media to report this vicious deed while at the same time demeaning and robbing the victim of dignity seems beyond a failure. it is a further crime!
i can only hope for my daughter’s sake that society at large and the media in particular will grow the fuck up! maybe evolve some compassion…so that if not in life, at least in death our loved ones who happen to be transgender will not have to suffer the behaviour of fools.