so cher’s son is gonna be a contestant on dancing with the stars. good for him!
some of the entirely unenlightened comments on various blogs and on twitter have roused the anger of his famous mom, who has risen up like a mother bear and defended him.
good for her!
good for all of us, when someone who is transgender is courageous and strong enough not to hide who they are! when they are willing to put them selves out in the public eye, telling their story, sharing their truth.
last night there was a special on nightline abc about transgender kids. in the promos words like ‘pioneering’ were used to describe a generation of children being allowed to not only live as the gender with which they identify, but being supported by parents and care-givers, and pursuing hormone therapies and surgeries as well as name and gender changes on birth certificates.
good for them.
and good for all of us that the media is helping to open the way for conversations to occur, for awareness to be raised. it is just such coverage that can grant legitimacy to the subject.
when zeeona was three and a half, she told me she shouldn’t have a boy’s body. six months later on my birthday in april, abc, (again) ran a 20/20 episode hosted by barbara walters about transgender children. it was this program that helped me to start researching the reality that zeeona was describing.
the path taken since the day i accepted what she so desperately pleaded me to believe, has been indeed the ‘road less travelled’.
i have become knowledgable about things i never thought i’d need to know, and have learned to be an advocate, to be strong. zeeona only knows that her secret is no longer a secret. everyone knows she is a girl. and she knows she can trust me to make sure she is never anything else.
altho we both look forward to the day when the hormone therapy and surgery will ‘seal her fate’, i am alone in the knowledge that, no matter how ‘good’ it is for a person to live without hidden things or shame, there will always be some people who don’t even try to understand, some who will hate her for who she is, some that might even harm her.
and while high-profile people seem to have less to fear from close-minded folk, there are dangers, for them and especially for the everyday ordinary transgender woman.
transgender women are beaten, killed, discriminated against for employment, housing, and even in the lgbt community that has tacked their initial to the end of the acronym, there are disparaties.
so of course, as a parent, i will advocate for her. but i will also fear. i will smooth the way for her even as she, and others like her, pioneer a future of awareness and acceptance of transgender people.
good for us.
good for society, because at some point as humanity evolves to the next level, xenophobia, ignorance and hatred must be transcended. a homogenous populace numbly following the dominant paradigm does little to advance humankind.
so good for all variants and those who deviate from the norm, unapologetic and sincere. long may they enrich an otherwise drab world. long may they fly.