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letting go

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within the space of about ten days so much has changed. i must admit, my head is actually reeling!

first we had the news that ziona has gotten to the tanner level where the time is now to start puberty blockers. at just nine years old, and her third year living ‘outloud’ as the girl she’s always been, we are going to begin her long journey forward to make her body fall in line with her brain.

and today, she actually ‘gave up’ her old swingset and playhouse from the backyard. usually, she hangs onto things forever! really! she still has the first ever stuffed toy she got at one day old when i went to retrieve her from the hospital. there’s a box in the closet full of thomas the train tracks and such that is next to go.

it is nice that she is finally able to let go of these things. in a way, she will have lots of stuff to let go of in the months and years to come. but i feel a bit of sadness at all this letting go.

she is saying goodbye to her childhood these days. and so am i… it rather reminds me of when i finally let go of the son i thought i had been raising and accepted the daughter who had been there all along.

generally i like the whole process of ‘letting go’. i have been through alot of it myself throughout life. i have let go of lovers who’ve moved on. of children once they’ve flown the nest. of friends and family who have died. and as much as such letting go can be fraught with little sorrows, it is also full of new tomorrows.

so today the backyard no longer looks like a playground. now she and i are busy planning a garden for the space where the swingset was and a swimming pool where once the playhouse stood. of course, most of the hard work on these new projects will have to wait until we’ve returned from our annual cross-country road trip and pilgrimage to our california house. but that’s okay.

letting go is a way of moving forward after all, and it is something at which ziona and i are quite adept.

so, today we said goodbye to a part of her childhood that she had outgrown. and in a few years she will say goodbye to the body that has never suited her. through it all i feel like a hitch-hiker along for the ride of my life!

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4 thoughts on “letting go

  1. Thank you so much for sharing your journey.
    -Jennifer

  2. How true. Learning to let go can be one of the most difficult lessons in life, but as you said, it is a necessary step for growth and new beginnings. How apt that you chose to plant a garden in the place of the swingset. In it you will be able to see so much new growth. Good luck on your continued wild ride. The two of you make a brilliant pair.

    • both she and i love nature. a part of the backyard is left wild, altho i do have to trim it back. and we both love to make gardens. we’ll run out of room soon. i’ve even taken to putting in some gardens at my mom’s house already. our journey together is for the most part led by her needs. but lucky for me she enjoys travel, camping, roughing it. my grown daughters were a bit of the princess. and i am soooo not!

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