it’s been a whole month since my daughter and i ventured west to california, an annual pilgrimage for us – not just because we still have a place in the northern mendocino mountains, because these days we kill two birds with one stone, merging this ‘vacation’ ritual with appointments at the UCSF child and adolescent gender clinic.
but this year was special! this year ziona reached the inevitable ‘tanner level 2’. that means that she was ready for the next step in her journey to her true self.
in the months leading up to this visit, ziona had been very distraught over the increasing ‘pop-ups’ of the part of her anatomy that betrays her. the level of pain this caused her psyche apparent in the renewed threats to simply ‘cut it off’. all day long that unruly and incorrect member beset her young mind with the constant reminder that things are not as they should be.
now it has been a month since the magickal implant was placed in her arm. and the difference this has made is amazing. tho results are individual, the relief of her ‘symptoms’ is already huge!
the first week was horrible! she kept on expecting that she would be free of the erections and the growth of the testes would be immediate. she accused the implant of being a dud. she cried every time a ‘stiffie’ raised it ugly head. she begged me just to bring her back to the clinic and insist that an orchietomy be performed. her anxiety that nothing would stop the onslaught of male puberty nearly consumed her.
i explained to her that it would take some time for the vantas implant to get into her system and shut down testosterone producation. and altho i had faith that this was the case, i found myself as on pins and needles as she seemed to be. so i held my breath, hoping i would be proved right, the sooner the better.
so here we are now, a month later. the testes are visibly retreating. the horrid erections are nearly non-existant any more. my beautiful daughter is far less anxious about the process and protocols that we are following, far more convinced that we will be able to make sure she doesn’t grow a beard, or develop a deeper voice.
on our way back home we visited with a good friend of mine, one whom i’ve known for eternities i’m sure, one who just happens be transgender. altho dropping in on her had much more to do with my self wanting to reconnect with Candy after all the years, it served as further evidence that surgical gender transformation would eventually liberate ziona to become fully female as well. it felt almost like a part of her was reassured in a way that simply telling her how this whole protocol worked could never quite do!
we skinny-dipped in a pond at my friend’s house. so ziona saw a beautiful transgender woman, who had shed the cocoon of her former self and become who she was always meant to be. the visage wasn’t wasted on her – she almost seemed to breathe a relieved sigh.
as for me, after feeling as tho i’ve been holding my breath for many months, i can finally rest a bit easier. we have put one foot in front of the other on the path that is unfolding before us, and i’m no longer suffocating…no longer waiting to exhale!