Thanks to Kira for another great article to pass along.
Being mother to any child carries, along with the various joys, worries as well. This is especially true of those among us who are raising transgender girls. As if growing up and into their personhood isn’t already fraught with drama and doubt, our daughters must also contend with a lack of compassion and support from others of their peers, that unlike the garden variety meanness of teenage girls, will be a ‘thing’ with which they must contend even once they’ve grown into adulthood!
Of course, that rejection by other women is one of the lesser things facing our daughters. Job and housing discrimination, failures in health care coverage, and even assault and murder are far more prevalent among transgender women than their cisters.
No one challenges a cis woman’s womanhood. when she gets a boob job she’s rarely demonised for it. She’s not considered fake if she uses make-up. Women who are born without a vagina or a uterus aren’t feared or loathed. So what is behind the isolation of transgender women? Why are they denied the right to self-definition and self-determination that every woman’s movement since the 60’s has demanded for their cisters?
Only ignorance! Only a lack of awareness! Only a failure of compassion!
So we, the mothers of transgender daughters, cheer at every victory, feel fear at every assault and stand proud while we do what we can to alleviate that ignorance, educate the unaware and remind our fellow women that every woman deserves our compassion and support.