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vested interests

been doing a lot of reading of all things transgender in the past few weeks.

there’s the case of the trans-woman jailed for murder having the state pony up for the appropriate treatment for her medical condition…boy, did this one stir up a powder keg online!

there was a blogger who declared that no lables are good…that using them segregates us as a community.

there was a woman who declared that she didn’t feel the need to have gender reassignment surgery to be the woman she is…what lies between the thighs doesn’t negate her womanhood.

there was a commentor on an article who claimed that there’s no such thing as cis-gender privelege, but the same person also didn’t think transgender people were ‘real’…just weird and confused.

there were a couple of reports and articles about transgender women being attacked by straight males, which brought up the whole issue of a little thing called ‘disclosure’ or ‘rules of engagement’ which ended up going to that familiar “she had it coming”, ‘blame the victim’ philosophy heretofore used by rape apologists.

on a support site i visit, usually lurking and reading but not posting too much, there have been instances of endocrinologists refusing to treat transgender children…in the middle of testosterone protocol.

there were cases i read of people fighting the school system to win the right for their trans-children to be called by their affirmed name, referred to in the proper pronouns and use the bathroom which is true to their gender identity.

as i read these various stories, i always have an opinion…something that perhaps is common to the human condition, having opinions i mean. and tho i surely have strong opinions about a number of issues, few of them are are held as adamantly, as those i bear for issues about transgender people. (that ‘mother bear’ thing again)

not for nothing, even before realising i am raising a transgender girl i had strong opinions about issues regarding trans-folk, having stood up for these, my sisters and brothers, on numerous occasions when their ‘validity’ as whom they believe themselves to be was held to scrutiny by others in the lgbt community. (prescient perhaps?)

but even tho in the past i had ‘strong opinions’ about their right to self-identification and self-determination, the plight of transgender people in general was usually out of sight and out of mind.

not anymore! my opinions are fierce these days!

of course the murderer spending the rest of her natural life in prison deserves to have the state pay for necessary medical treatment, just as the state pays for bi-pass surgery for murderer’s or daily doses of insulin. there should be no doubt that this person has the same right to gender reassignment surgery. damn it!

labels? yes, they are certainly used by some to drive a wedge between groups of people. but to others they are proudly worn! signifying who they are now and what they’ve gone through to be here. every label that can be placed upon me i wear and own, reclaim and redefine until they are no longer the labels put on me by others, but designed and embraced by myself to state my truth to the world. my daughter is glad of the fact that there is a word for her, one that separates her life-experience from those of other little girls: she’s proudly transgender.

the transgender folk who don’t feel surgery is necessary? more power to them! and how dare anyone try to tell them that they must go ‘all the way’ or they are somehow ‘less’ their affirmed gender! at times i wish that ziona didn’t feel so strongly about ridding herself of the “boy part”. she is every bit a girl to me even tho it still is there, but she will never feel right until the surgery is done. more power to her too!

as to non-disclosure being used to justify attacks against transgender people? i’m as outraged about this as i am when i hear ‘she was dressed like a hooker’ justifications of rape where the victim is likewise blamed for the evil that is done to her. what exactly must my daughter disclose? when? and why? she has been a girl all her life! the fact that she had to have surgery to undo a birth-defect is no more necessary to disclose, in my mind, than a person having surgery to mend a cleft palatte or remove a nasty mole, or colon polyp. and were there no stigma attached to a person’s choice of sexual partner, partners or the genders thereof, it wouldn’t matter in the least that one disclose who they were at birth. it’s outrageous!

primary care physicians, pediatric endocrinologists and school personel who are ignorant of the fact of transgender children, and the attending proscibed protocols and standards of care should be made to go back to school and catch up! they should not be allowed to bail on their patients or students! i think doctors actually recite a rather beautiful oath that would preclude them doing so. as for the public and private school systems, well, i’ll just say that i am grateful everyday that we don’t have to use them…that i can stay home during the day and teach my own child, with my own values, and that her ‘socialisation’ doesn’t include being bullied by other children, but rather sharing fun with the few friends that she enjoys.

i guess i’m much more strident in my opinions these days, much more likely to express them too! i have a vested interest in the world changing for the better…my daughter will have to live there!


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understandable?

yesterday another mass shooting happened. this time a sikh temple. even before reading or listening to the mainstream media’s coverage of the event, i knew what would be said. it is the same thing i’ve heard ever since the 9/11 attacks. because sikhs wear turbans and beards, as per their religious culture, they were “unfairly” associated with muslims.

this sort of statement, used countless times when sikhs have been attacked since 2001, implies that it is ‘okay’ to attack muslims. that it is at least ‘understandable’ to habour hatred towards muslims, and therefore since the latest redneck racist thought he was attacking muslims, it is only a shame that his ignorance prevented him from knowing the difference between a muslim and a sikh.

“unfairly associated with muslims”, a case of mistaken identity. the implication of even the terminology used makes it clear that while murdering muslims, or those that look like muslims isn’t legal, isn’t justifiable under the law, it is at least “understandable” somehow.

it is the same thing we hear in the news when some homophobic psychopath murders or attacks a gay man, (he was coming on to me) or a transgender woman (the he-she deceived me!) [“i thought it was the real thing” shades of ‘rocky horror picture show]

it isn’t that we, as a culture, absolve the perpetrators of their crimes, but they are given a slight nod…a bit of a pass. because after all, the victim looked like someone who had it coming.

vilifying a whole group of people as nearly ‘fair game’ is way worse than blaming the victim for the murder or assault against them. and when we as a society can be manipulated into feeling less horror at such things simply on the basis of the victim’s race, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation or gender identity we have already become monsters. we have already declared the horrific as something understandable. we have lost our way

“unfairly associated” with muslims, as if that should matter.
“the he/she came onto me”, as if that made it right.

we’re doomed!


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islamophobia has disinformation in part to blame

this was posted to a site where i post poetry at times…it was in the forums sections which
often have ignorant opinions of people who post there.

i think it should go without saying that the whole post is xenophobic, utter nonsense and scare doctrine. which the person posting suggests should be passed along.

is it any wonder americans are easy to convince that islam and muslims are kill-worthy? with such shit flowing about the internet and elsewhere, it should be no great surprise that some of the sheeple are more than willing to hate!

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In the Muslim faith a Muslim man can marry a child as young as 1 year
old and have sexual intimacy with this child. Consummating the
marriage by 9. The dowry is given to the family in exchange for the
woman (who becomes his slave) and for the purchase of the private
parts of the woman, to use her as a toy.

Even though a woman is abused she can not obtain a divorce. To prove
rape, the woman must have (4) male witnesses. Often after a woman has
been raped, she is returned to her family and the family must return
the dowry. The family has the right to execute her (an honor killing)
to restore the honor of the family. Husbands can beat their wives ‘at
will’ and he does not have to say why he has beaten her.

The husband is permitted to have (4 wives) and a temporary wife for an
hour (prostitute) at his discretion.

The Shariah Muslim law controls the private as well as the public life
of the woman.

In the West World ( America ) Muslim men are starting to demand
Shariah Law so the wife can not obtain a divorce and he can have full
and complete control of her. It is amazing and alarming how many of
our sisters and daughters attending American Universities are now
marrying Muslim men and submitting themselves and their children
unsuspectingly to the Shariah law.

By passing this on, enlightened American women may avoid becoming a
slave under Shariah Law. Ripping the West in Two. Author and lecturer
Nonie Darwish says the goal of radical Islamists is to impose Shariah
law on the world, ripping Western law and liberty in two. She recently
authored the book, Cruel and Usual Punishment: The Terrifying Global
Implications of Islamic Law.

Darwish was born in Cairo and spent her childhood in Egypt and Gaza
before immigrating to America in 1978, when she was eight years old.
Her father died while leading covert attacks on Israel . He was a
high-ranking Egyptian military officer stationed with his family in
Gaza .

When he died, he was considered a “shahid,” a martyr for jihad. His
posthumous status earned Nonie and her family an elevated position in
Muslim society.

But Darwish developed a skeptical eye at an early age. She questioned
her own Muslim culture and upbringing.. She converted to Christianity
after hearing a Christian preacher on television.

In her latest book, Darwish warns about creeping sharia law – what it
is, what it means, and how it is manifested in Islamic countries.

For the West, she says radical Islamists are working to impose sharia
on the world. If that happens, Western civilization will be destroyed.
Westerners generally assume all religions encourage a respect for the
dignity of each individual. Islamic law (Sharia) teaches that
non-Muslims should be subjugated or killed in this world.

Peace and prosperity for one’s children is not as important as
assuring that Islamic law rules everywhere in the Middle East and
eventually in the world.

While Westerners tend to think that all religions encourage some form
of the golden rule, Sharia teaches two systems of ethics – one for
Muslims and another for non-Muslims Building on tribal practices of
the seventh century, Sharia encourages the side of humanity that wants
to take from and subjugate others.

While Westerners tend to think in terms of religious people developing
a personal understanding of and relationship with God, Sharia
advocates executing people who ask difficult questions that could be
interpreted as criticism.

It’s hard to imagine, that in this day and age, Islamic scholars agree
that those who criticize Islam or choose to stop being Muslim should
be executed. Sadly, while talk of an Islamic reformation is common and
even assumed by many in the West, such murmurings in the Middle East
are silenced through intimidation.

While Westerners are accustomed to an increase in religious tolerance
over time, Darwish explains how petro dollars are being used to grow
an extremely intolerant form of political Islam in her native Egypt
and elsewhere.

(In twenty years there will be enough Muslim voters in the U.S. to
elect the President by themselves! Rest assured they will do so… You
can look at how they have taken over several towns in the USA ..
Dearborn Mich. is one… and there are others…)

I think everyone in the U.S. should be required to read this, but with
the ACLU, there is no way this will be widely publicized, unless each
of us sends it on!

It is too bad that so many are disillusioned with life and
Christianity to accept Muslims as peaceful.. some may be but they have
an army that is willing to shed blood in the name of Islam.. the
peaceful support the warriors with their finances and own kind of
patriotism to their religion. While America is getting rid of
Christianity from all public sites and erasing God from the lives of
children the Muslims are planning a great jihad on America ….

This is your chance to make a difference…! Pass it on to your email
list or at least those you think will listen..

Some of those I’m sending it to WILL NOT! Put your head back under the
covers so you can’t see the boogie man!

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anyone who is passed along so called information about another culture would do well to investigate for themselves whether or not the ‘truths’ offered have any resemblance to fact!

don’t be a fool!